Sunday, March 15, 2009

Pens Lose....Dad Wins :-)


Yesterday I took Taylor and Christian to the Pens game. I chose this game because they were playing the Ottawa Senators...which is Christian's favorite team. We had a great time but the pens lost 4-3 in a sudden death shootout. We got our moneys worth and Christian got to see his favorite player Dany Heatley and he got to see his team win. I couldn't believe how some fans treated him and the comments that were made because he had an Ottawa jersey on...even though he is only 9 years old.( I almost got into it with one guy, but we just walked away) It led the boys to ask me questions about why some people are so mean, and why they talk the way they do (we heard some nasty language), and why are they at the game drunk. I answered their questions and I told them that Miss and I keep them away from that as much as we can....But we can't in those situations. They are old enough to see and understand alot of things now. They ask me all kinds of questions now about why people smoke and why they do drugs. I am glad they ask Miss and I....and not other people. Kids see so much...more than we know...and they take it all in. I have learned how important it is to set a good example and to be ready to answer the tough questions...because they are coming.

We had a great time together...I am so blessed to have two outstanding young men as sons. They smiled alot during the day and we laughed together and on our way to our car after the game....they thanked me for taking them and told me how much fun it was. It didn't matter to me who won the game....I invested in their life yesterday and I won....I was the hero....that makes it all worthwhile!

Saturday, March 7, 2009

My Little Cheerleader


Today Emma went to her first cheerleading camp at the high school. We were able to go and watch her for the last half hour to see what they learned. It was pretty cute...and it looked like all of the campers had fun. Thank you to the advisers and the high school cheerleaders for organizing the camp and giving up your Saturday for these young campers.

YMCA Basketball...Fun Times !!!


Today Christian's team played their last YMCA basketball game of the season. It was a fun season with a great group of kids that were easy to coach. We were down 4 points today halfway through the 4th quarter, but brought it back to tie it up, and then Christian tipped the ball to Daniel Callen under the basket and he put it in at the buzzer for the win. It was exciting...even though we are not supposed to be keeping score...yea right! You can tell by the smiles, they were having a blast!!!

Wednesday, March 4, 2009

True Sportsmanship !!!!!

This is an awesome article about a high school basketball team that put the life of a player on the opposing team ahead of winning a game. In a society that so often believes that we are to "win at all cost"....this team and their coach made a choice....to keep things in perspective.


Team's gesture supports grieving opponent

Two missed free throws, ordinarily the cause of a coach's headache, became the symbol of sportsmanship in a Milwaukee boys' basketball game earlier this month.
Milwaukee Madison senior Johntell Franklin, who lost his mother, Carlitha, to cancer on Saturday, Feb. 7, decided he wanted to play in that night's game against DeKalb (Ill.) High School after previously indicating he would sit out.
He arrived at the gym in the second quarter, but Franklin's name was not in the scorebook because his coach, Aaron Womack Jr., didn't expect him to be there.
Rules dictated Womack would have to be assessed a technical, but he was prepared to put Franklin in the game anyway. DeKalb coach Dave Rohlman and his players knew of the situation, and told the referees they did not want the call. The referees had no choice. But Rohlman did.
"I gathered my kids and said, 'Who wants to take these free throws?'" Rohlman said, recounting the game to the Milwaukee Journal Sentinel. "Darius McNeal put up his hand. I said, 'You realize you're going to miss, right?' He nodded his head."
McNeal, a senior point guard, went to the line. The Milwaukee Madison players stayed by their bench, waiting for the free throws. Instead of seeing the ball go through the net, they saw the ball on the court, rolling over the end line.
"I turned around and saw the ref pick up the ball and hand it back to the player," Womack said in the Journal Sentinel. "And then [McNeal] did the same thing again."
Said Rohlman: "Darius set up for a regular free throw, but he only shot it two or three feet in front of him. It bounced once or twice and just rolled past the basket."
"I did it for the guy who lost his mom," McNeal told the newspaper. "It was the right thing to do."
Womack, overwhelmed by DeKalb's gesture, wrote a letter to the DeKalb Daily Chronicle, which had first reported the story.
"As a principal, school, school district staff, and community you should all feel immense pride for the remarkable job that the coaching staff is doing in not only coaching these young men, but teaching them how to be leaders," Womack wrote.
DeKalb had traveled more than two hours for the game, and waited another two as Womack rushed from the hospital, where he had been with Franklin, to the school to gather his team.
"We were sympathetic to the circumstances and the events," Rohlman said in the Journal Sentinel. "We even told Coach Womack that it'd be OK to call off the game, but he said we had driven 2½ hours to get here and the kids wanted to play. So we said, 'Spend some time with your team and come out when you're ready.'"
The two schools had met twice previously, and this one ended with a Madison victory, but as in the other games, they also shared a pizza dinner, "four kids to a pizza, two Madison kids and two DeKalb kids," Womack told the Journal Sentinel.
"That letter became a big deal in DeKalb," Rohlman said in the paper. "We got lots of positive calls and e-mails because of it. Even though we lost the game, it was a true life lesson, and it's not one our kids are going to forget anytime soon."
Womack, in his letter to the DeKalb Daily Chronicle, added this at the end: "I'd like to recognize Darius who stepped up to miss the shot on purpose. He could have been selfish and cared only for his own stats [I hope Coach Rohlman doesn't make him run for missing the free throws]."

Monday, February 23, 2009

A long day....But well worth it!!!

This past weekend I took an elementary basketball team to a tournament at Shannock Valley. I coached Taylor's 5th and 6th grade YMCA team this winter and we just kept the team together (and my son Christian who is in 3rd grade) to practice more and play a few extra games. It has been fun and the kids have really benefited from our time together. As you can tell from the picture, we won the tournament....but it was a long day of basketball....12 hours to be exact!!! I love coaching my kids and being involved in the things that they do...and trying to have an impact on their friends lives as well. The kids are growing up so fast and I know this time will not last forever....so I am trying my best to take advantage of each moment....I don't want to miss anything. One more week of basketball....then it is time to get ready for baseball season :-)

Monday, February 16, 2009

This Will Touch Your Heart

This is one of the most amazing and inspirational stories I have ever seen.....

Friday, February 13, 2009

I am Blessed


I wanted to share a picture of my two girls. I am thankful this Valentines Day to have a wonderful family...but extra thankful for my wife. Miss does so much for our family, which allows me to do alot of things that I have always wanted do do. She is a wonderful mother to our kids...and most of the time I have no idea how she gets everything done. We have been through alot together so far on the dusty trail of life and I love her more today than I ever have. Everything that we have been through has brought us closer together. She has grown into an amazing woman of God and I am very blessed to call her my wife (I am sure to get major brownie points when she reads this..LOL). Here is a video of our song that we danced to at our wedding. Thanks Miss...Happy Valentines Day...I Love You!!!!

Saturday, February 7, 2009

Just a Thought.......


College football teams usually have great traditions. One of the greatest is that of the University of Notre Dame. My son Christian is a Notre Dame fan (don't ask me why) and I was telling him about the sign that hangs in their locker room that reads "Play Like a Champion Today". On game day when each of the players go on the field, they touch the sign. It reminds them of the great teams of the past and the tradition they are responsible for upholding. They think of the the hard work that it has taken to get to where they are and all of the people in their life that have helped them to get there. I know Notre Dame has struggled lately, but the players that have played there always talk about the significance of that sign, "Play Like a Champion Today".

It got me thinking about my daily life and what I want to accomplish. How I want to act, how I want to treat people, the difference that I want to make, and what I want people to see when they look at me. What does it mean in my life to be a champion today?

I thought of Philipians 2: 3-5

“Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too. You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had.”

So I thought....what if we had a sign hanging in our house and the first thing we did before we played the game of life each day....would be to touch the sign that reads "Live Like Jesus Today".
Just as a reminder of everything he has done for us and for the attitude he wants us to take with us into the world each day...no matter where it is that God has placed us to make a difference for Him!!!!

Wednesday, February 4, 2009

You Are in Charge of Your Attitude

This is one of my favorite quotes. We can't always control the things that happen in life...but we can always control how we respond. We can choose to honor Christ even in the the face of controversy.

“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes.”

Charles Swindoll

Thursday, January 29, 2009

Update

I posted an article a couple of weeks ago about a coach in Texas and his school that did something very special for the opposing team. They played a team that was a correctional facility for youth and they had their fans cheer for the other team because they never have any fans. It is an amazing story. If you haven't read the article you can find it here on my blog. The coach that set the whole thing up has been invited by the commisioner of the NFL to be his personal guest at the Superbowl and speak to a group of coaches on the topic of character. Here is the coach being interviewed on ESPN.

Wednesday, January 28, 2009

"First Things First"

Everybody knows I am a huge Steeler fan and I am looking forward to the Superbowl. I like when the Steelers play a team that I don't like; it is so easy to cheer against the Ravens or Cowboys. I have tried, but I just can't dislike the Cardinals. In fact, I have alot of respect for what they have been able to accomplish and for many players on their team. I also like coach Whisenhunt and I think he has done a tremendous job. But I have a ton of respect for their QB....Kurt Warner. Here is a guy that was out of football, stocking shelves at a grocery store and ended up playing arena football for three years before he finally got his chance in the NFL with the St. Louis Rams. When their starting QB got hurt, he got his chance and led them to a Superbowl victory and was the League MVP two times. After a couple of stops in other cities, he signed with the Cardinals and has his team in the Superbowl again. He will probably end up in the Hall of Fame. He is the real deal off the field as well...he might be the boldest Christian to ever play in the NFL, where he has professed his faith on the biggest stages possible...and then backed it up by helping less fortunate people through organizations he has personally founded. He has set a great example for all of us and has accomplished alot....I just hope he doesn't have any of that success on Sunday, lol !!!!! This video tells a little about what he is doing through his organization, First Things First.

Sunday, January 25, 2009

The Silver Bullet


A couple of summers ago we went on vacation to Oklahoma to visit my wife's sister and her family. On one of the afternoons while we were there we decided to go to a water park. We had fun swimming and going down some small slides for most of the afternoon, until the kids decided they wanted to try the main attraction, "The Silver Bullet". Now...I saw it across the park, but I wasn't saying anything about it. You see...this water slide is 100 feet straight down and I am afraid of heights. My son Christian and his cousin Alley started up the endless flights of steps...I was fine just watching. They went down several times and were having a blast. This whole time, my other son Taylor was wrestling with whether to do it or not. He wanted to but he was afraid. He saw how much fun the others were having and he hated it...but he couldn't bring himself to do it. It got to the point where some tears started showing in his eyes. So I told him that if he wanted to do it...I would do it with him. (I didn't really think he would say yes, lol) After a few minutes he said okay let's do it...so we headed up the steps. He told me on the way up that he was scared, and I told him that I was too but we were going to "face our fears together". We prayed on the way too. When we got to the top I asked him if he wanted me to go first and he said no, he wanted to go. He did it...he went right down. I stood there and I have to admit, I thought about going down the steps, but I kept my word and went down the slide. (I closed my eyes the whole way down) When I got to the bottom it was worth it to see the smile on Taylor's face. Taylor learned alot from that experience about facing his fears and trusting God. He felt so good about his accomplishment, something he never could have felt if he wouldn't have been willing to take the risk.

So often in life we hold back because we are afraid, but how are we ever going to do anything great if we aren't willing to "face our fears"...if we aren't willing to take a risk. Maybe God wants to do something miraculous in your life, but he is waiting for you to trust him. Remember in the bible when Jesus was walking on water and he said to his disciples....

"Take courage! It is I. Don't be afraid." Peter replies, "Lord, if it's you, tell me to come to you on the water." So Jesus invites Peter to come. Peter gets out of the boat and begins walking on the water toward Jesus. But when Peter takes his eyes off Jesus and sees the wind and waves, he begins to sink. Peter cries out to the Lord and Jesus immediately reaches out his hand and catches Peter. As they climb into the boat together, the storm ceases. Then the disciples worship Jesus, saying, "Truly you are the Son of God."

Sure...Peter took his eyes off of Jesus and fell in the water, but he was willing to take the risk and get out of the boat...and HE WALKED ON WATER! What could God do in your life if you were willing to get out of the boat?

Friday, January 23, 2009

What Will Your Dash Stand For?

This is one of my favorite poems. Read it...think about it...do something about it! "This is the day the Lord has made, let us rejoice and be glad in it." Here is the video version and the words...ENJOY!




The Dash
1996 Linda Ellis

I read of a man who stood to speak at the funeral of a friend.
He referred to the dates on his tombstone from the beginning...to the end.

He noted that first came the date of his birth and spoke of the following date with tears,
but he said what mattered most of all was the dash between those years.

For that dash represents all the time that he spent alive on earth...and now only those who loved him know what that little line is worth.

For it matters not, how much we own; the cars....the house...the cash.
What matters is how we live and love and how we spend our dash.

So think about this long and hard...are there things you'd like to change?
For you never know how much time is left that can still be rearranged.

If we could just slow down enough to consider what's true and real, and always try to understand the way other people feel.
And be less quick to anger,and show appreciation more,

and love the people in our lives like we've never loved before.

If we treat each other with respect,and more often wear a smile...remembering that this special dash might only last a little while.

So, when your eulogy is being read with your life's actions to rehash...would you be proud of the things they say about how you spent your dash?

Tuesday, January 20, 2009

A Testimony For Tampa

I am so excited that the Steelers are headed to Tampa to play in Superbowl XLIII. There is nothing like your team playing in the big game. I have been a Steeler fan my whole life, but when they won their last Superbowl in the 70's I was 6 years old. I barely remember that game...so I really enjoyed watching them win the Superbowl three years ago. I remember going to training camp when I was 8 years old, and when Mean Joe Greene ran by me I couldn't believe how big he was. And when I was trying to get Mike Webster's autograph with a large group of kids surrounding him, I tripped on the curb and he picked me up and made sure I was okay...then gave me his autograph. (lol) I also remember Lynn Swann sneaking out the back door of the locker room so he did't have to give autographs. (I still haven't forgiven him for that...just kidding) When I was around 12 years old I went to an autograph session in Brookville and got my picture taken with Louie Lipps. That was when the Steelers were bad, but I still watched every game. Watching the Steelers play has always been one of my favorite things to do.

We see these big, strong athletes on TV and we think that they have it all. They are stars and make lots of money, but many of them are unhappy. Many of them have problems just like you and me. Many of them have an emptiness and turn to drugs and alcohol. Just because a player is in the NFL, or just because they are successful, that doesn't mean they have joy in their life. Many of them are searching.

I have read about the Steeler teams from the 70's and many of those players were strong Christians. Guys like Donnie Shell, John Stallworth, John Kolb, and Larry Brown. Many guys on those teams would pray together and read their bibles together. Many of the recent Steelers are also Christians. We see these guys that dish out big hits on Sunday afternoons...and we think we know them. Listen to this testimony by Aaron Smith from the Pittsburgh Steelers....and see if it is much different than someone that you know!

Saturday, January 17, 2009

A Simple Game of Basketball


Tonight I went with a group of friends to play basketball. Nothing out of the ordinary. Well, it wasn't an ordinary game...you see our opponents were the inmates at the Marienville Prison. This is the second year we have played them and I guess they have trouble finding people that will go into the prison to play. We had to go through a background check and then had our things searched at the prison and had to go through a medal detector. It feels like you are the one headed to the slammer! They have nice facilities there...it is a new jail...and the gym is beautiful. They get so excited for us to come because they play basketball every day, but they only get to play against each other. There are a few prison guards that stand and watch the game..for our protection...but the clock is run by inmates and the refs are inmates. Yea, that's right, we don't get too many calls that go our way...lol. When the game is over and it is time to shake hands...the imates don't just shake our hands...each and every one of them hugs us, thanks us for coming, and asks us to please come back again. They are mostly just normal men between the ages of 18 and 30, that made mistakes, and are now paying the price...some for the rest of their life. I usually feel sad when I leave though because you see these young men with their whole life ahead of them that could have been successful with the right influence and motivation. Young men that are not much different than you or me.

You are probably wondering who won the game...right? Well, we lost by 20 points each of the last two years. We go and we try to win, but that isn't the reason we go. We think of it as an outreach. We pray before the game and we show good sportsmanship and we give the inmates something to look forward to and we show them we care. We get a chance to stand and talk with them for a little while after the game and they are very appreciative... and we hope that maybe one of them might see our Lord and Savior through our kindness.

That's why we go!


Thursday, January 15, 2009

The Best Gift You Can Give is Free!


I came across this article today and thought I would share it. It is an amazing story....




They played the oddest game in high school football history last month down in Grapevine, Texas.
It was Grapevine Faith vs. Gainesville State School and everything about it was upside down. For instance, when Gainesville came out to take the field, the Faith fans made a 40-yard spirit line for them to run through.
Did you hear that? The other team's fans?
They even made a banner for players to crash through at the end. It said, "Go Tornadoes!" Which is also weird, because Faith is the Lions.
It was rivers running uphill and cats petting dogs. More than 200 Faith fans sat on the Gainesville side and kept cheering the Gainesville players on—by name.
"I never in my life thought I'd hear people cheering for us to hit their kids," recalls Gainesville's QB and middle linebacker, Isaiah. "I wouldn't expect another parent to tell somebody to hit their kids. But they wanted us to!"
And even though Faith walloped them 33-14, the Gainesville kids were so happy that after the game they gave head coach Mark Williams a sideline squirt-bottle shower like he'd just won state. Gotta be the first Gatorade bath in history for an 0-9 coach.
But then you saw the 12 uniformed officers escorting the 14 Gainesville players off the field and two and two started to make four. They lined the players up in groups of five—handcuffs ready in their back pockets—and marched them to the team bus. That's because Gainesville is a maximum-security correctional facility 75 miles north of Dallas. Every game it plays is on the road.
This all started when Faith's head coach, Kris Hogan, wanted to do something kind for the Gainesville team. Faith had never played Gainesville, but he already knew the score. After all, Faith was 7-2 going into the game, Gainesville 0-8 with 2 TDs all year. Faith has 70 kids, 11 coaches, the latest equipment and involved parents. Gainesville has a lot of kids with convictions for drugs, assault and robbery—many of whose families had disowned them—wearing seven-year-old shoulder pads and ancient helmets.
So Hogan had this idea. What if half of our fans—for one night only—cheered for the other team? He sent out an email asking the Faithful to do just that. "Here's the message I want you to send:" Hogan wrote. "You are just as valuable as any other person on planet Earth."
Some people were naturally confused. One Faith player walked into Hogan's office and asked, "Coach, why are we doing this?"
And Hogan said, "Imagine if you didn't have a home life. Imagine if everybody had pretty much given up on you. Now imagine what it would mean for hundreds of people to suddenly believe in you."
Next thing you know, the Gainesville Tornadoes were turning around on their bench to see something they never had before. Hundreds of fans. And actual cheerleaders!
"I thought maybe they were confused," said Alex, a Gainesville lineman (only first names are released by the prison). "They started yelling 'DEE-fense!' when their team had the ball. I said, 'What? Why they cheerin' for us?'"
It was a strange experience for boys who most people cross the street to avoid. "We can tell people are a little afraid of us when we come to the games," says Gerald, a lineman who will wind up doing more than three years. "You can see it in their eyes. They're lookin' at us like we're criminals. But these people, they were yellin' for us! By our names!"
Maybe it figures that Gainesville played better than it had all season, scoring the game's last two touchdowns. Of course, this might be because Hogan put his third-string nose guard at safety and his third-string cornerback at defensive end. Still.
After the game, both teams gathered in the middle of the field to pray and that's when Isaiah surprised everybody by asking to lead. "We had no idea what the kid was going to say," remembers Coach Hogan. But Isaiah said this: "Lord, I don't know how this happened, so I don't know how to say thank You, but I never would've known there was so many people in the world that cared about us."
And it was a good thing everybody's heads were bowed because they might've seen Hogan wiping away tears.
As the Tornadoes walked back to their bus under guard, they each were handed a bag for the ride home—a burger, some fries, a soda, some candy, a Bible and an encouraging letter from a Faith player.
The Gainesville coach saw Hogan, grabbed him hard by the shoulders and said, "You'll never know what your people did for these kids tonight. You'll never, ever know."
And as the bus pulled away, all the Gainesville players crammed to one side and pressed their hands to the window, staring at these people they'd never met before, watching their waves and smiles disappearing into the night.
Anyway, with the economy six feet under and Christmas running on about three and a half reindeer, it's nice to know that one of the best presents you can give is still absolutely free.....Hope.

By Rick Reilly

Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Thanks Coach Dungy



Yesterday one of the greatest coaches in the NFL retired from coaching....but what set Tony Dungy apart from most was his integrity and his character. He is one of the most respected coaches that has ever coached...and not because of wins and losses or X's and O's...but because of how he treated people and because of his humility. If you have not read his book Quiet Strength, it is a very inspirational book that tells about his journey through life and his faith in Jesus Christ. Thank you Coach Dungy for showing all of us that it is possible to be successful...by doing it the right way!




Check out this link on Coach Dungy's Career: http://www.nfl.com/videos?videoId=09000d5d80e11ec3


Sunday, January 11, 2009

What's Your Number?

In Sunday school today we started a study on the book of Acts. We focused on chapter 1 verses 1-8. Jesus had come back to life after being crucified and he was speaking to his apostles and giving them instructions from the Holy Spirit. Jesus told them "But when the Holy Spirit has come upon you, you will receive power and will tell people about me everywhere - in Jerusalem, throughout Judea, in Samaria, and to the ends of the earth". Of course, they did that and told many people about Jesus....but once we accept Him as our Lord and Savior...we are given the power to do the same. That is the way our Pastor is leading our church as we reach out to each other, to people in our own community, to neighboring towns as we start new churches, and to a place in the world as we look to find somewhere to invest in over a 5 year period.

God forgive me when I get in the way and I think I can't talk to someone because I don't know what to say or I don't know what to do. You have given me the "power of the Holy Spirit"....and I think I won't have the right words. WOW!! If we truly care about people and we understand what is at stake, then we don't have any time to waste. And when I think that just means my friends and family...well...Jesus said to tell people "everywhere". This is one of my favorite videos our church has ever made, it really makes you think......

Friday, January 9, 2009

People Are Watching You!

Today was my wife's birthday, so tonight we went out as a family to eat at Pizza Hut and then to a movie (Bedtime Stories...great movie). When we were finishing up eating, we saw a friend from the community whose family has recently been through some difficult times and we stood and talked with her. I didn't ask her permission to use her name, but they are very respected people in our community. But that's not the important part anyway...the important part was her words. Her husband has recovered from major surgery and her daughter has recently recovered from a bad accident. She talked about the adversity that they had faced and how difficult that it was. But she told me that they remained positve because she knew that "people were watching us and how we would handle it" and she said that they didn't want people to walk away "feeling sorry for us" but instead they wanted "to be an example so that others would see them and have hope for the situations in their lives". WOW!! Is that awesome or what?

It really made me think about how much we can have an influence on other people. We may not realize that people are watching us, but they are. And our actions can influence how they live their life. What situations or circumstances are you facing in your life right now?...because there are people watching you to see how you are going to respond. This may be your opportunity to give people hope...to set an example...to infuence someone...to show people Jesus Christ.

"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy."

Martin Luther King, Jr

Wednesday, January 7, 2009

Lets Go Gators!

I have become a big Florida fan over the past few seasons. I love the way they play. They run the type of spread offense that I like and they are very innovative. They will have their hands full with a very talented Oklahoma team. It should be a great game to watch. No matter who wins there will be a huge controversy over who is the real #1 team in the nation. Some will say Texas, some will say USC, some will say Utah (they ended undefeated), and some will say whoever wins in the BCS Championship. A playoff in college football just wouldn't make sense!!!!(lol)

I have loved following Tim Tebow over the past three years. I think he plays the game the right way. He plays with passion, heart, and enthusiasm. He is a tremendous leader. He puts football 4th on his list of importance in his life. Right after God, Family, and Academics. He gives the glory to his Lord and Savior Jesus Christ for everything in his life. Check out this video....

Monday, January 5, 2009

Face to Face

We live in a time of outstanding technological breakthroughs. It is so easy to send someone an email, text someone, talk on a cell phone, or send a letter. The problem with these types of communication is that they are so impersonal. It is so easy for people to say things or write things when they are not face to face with someone. And it is easy to misinterpret what someone means when you can't see their face or see their heart. Nothing can take the place of sitting down with someone and looking in theirs eyes when you talk to them. It is true that alot of times "it's not what you say, it's how you say it". So I have learned that sometimes people just want to be heard...and that maybe I shouldn't be so quick to jump to conclusions. People deserve a chance to explain themselves and should be given the benefit of the doubt. The only way we can do that is to sit down face to face ...look them in the eyes...and see their heart. People may surprise you...if you just give them a chance.

Friday, January 2, 2009

Don't Be Afraid To Fail

Let's face it...none of us can be successful all of the time. We are going to face road blocks and we are going to make mistakes. Things don't always go the way we plan. We want them to. Sometimes we decide to give up and sometimes we blame God. That is when we need to trust Him..sometimes he is trying to teach us something and somtimes he is trying to shape us and mold us into the person that he wants us to be. And maybe God is testing us to see how badly we want something. The most fulfilling things in life are the things that you have to work for...because if it was easy everyone would do it. My Mom always told me growing up that "everything happens for a reason"...and I truly believe that...and I trust that God knows what is best for me...even when I think I know what is best. Thankfully...God places people in our life that love us and care about us and encourage us when things get tough. It may be your family, or friends, or a teacher or coach.

If you stay close to God in prayer and you are willing to not give up or give in...you can accomplish anything you set your mind to. There will always be those people in life that want to point out your mistakes, that aren't willing to risk anything themslves but seem to be there each time that you fall. You don't have to give those people any authority in your life. But then...there are those people that care for you and are trying to challenge you to make you better. They are honest with you...but you know they love you. Surround yourself with those people and don't ever give up. Failing isn't something to be afraid of, because if we never take a risk we will never accomplish anything great. I think the biggest regrets at the end of our life will be the risks that we didn't take...not the ones that we did and failed.

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.”

President Theodore Roosevelt

Thursday, January 1, 2009

Happy New Year 2009

There is something fresh about a brand new year. It is another chance to make a resolution to try to do something better or try to get rid of a bad habit. Many times people will want to exercise more to lose weight (I could use that) or they want to stop smoking (I don't smoke). This year I am excited about what God has in store for me and my family. It is so easy to get caught up in everyday life and miss what God has for us. I want to focus on his plan for me this year, I want to spend more time with with him, and I want to worship him for all he has done and all he will do. This year Lord...I don't want to be held back by people or excuses. This year Lord...I AM YOURS...